In the book No More Mr. Nice Guy, Robert Glover excellent depicts men who are always kind to make women like themselves essentially passive manipulators and aggressors. There is a reason why good boys often date non-narcissistic queens. They are a good couple. And they have to admit it to themselves.
Good people passively approach life and relationships. Instead of speaking up, they let others easily dominate themselves. They are easygoing people and always please people. Good people have difficulty rejecting requests – even unreasonable ones. They were too kind to be necessary. When they want or need something, they are afraid to make a request because they do not want to disturb others. Good people avoid conflicts like the epidemic. They prefer harmony over fighting.
At first glance, Good People seem to be holy people. They seem to be very generous, flexible and extremely polite. But if you take a closer look, you will often notice the core is weak, anxious and resentful. Good people are often worried because their self-worth depends on the recognition of others and the love of others. They waste a lot of time trying to figure out how to refuse people and even so, usually they end up agreeing because they can’t get over that habit. They feel they cannot follow their true desires because they get entangled in what others think they should do. Because “following nature” is their default approach to life, Good People have little control over their lives and therefore feel useless, frail and deadlocked.
In the worst-case scenario, pent-up indignation from rude treatment will trigger unexpected rage and violent behavior. They are a volcano that is about to erupt.